Going over the Edge

I have been known to say that a person should not jump to conclusions, they could jump to far and go over the edge! Right?!?! I think part of jumping to conclusions is closely related to being a bit close minded, and that just happens to be one of my pet peeves.

Now, I’m not saying that I have never jumped before and I’m sure that I have been close minded on more than one occasion, but haven’t we all? However, I don’t think that it is necessary to have that reaction EVERY TIME something happens that you don’t like or agree with, especially if you are and adult (of “mature” age)!

There is a saying that goes “with age comes maturity, and with maturity comes wisdom” I would agree with half of this statement…the second half! From what I have seen the last couple of days, there is absolutely NO proof that maturity and age go hand in hand, and that makes my heart hurt. 

I just don’t even know what to think about certain things that have transpired or the people who are making things more difficult than they need to be. I guess I will just deal with them like I dealt with my kids when they would tell me they didn’t love me anymore (when they were little and in the middle of a temper tantrum). I would simply say to them “that’s fine, I don’t like the way you’re acting right now, but I still love you!”, then I would walk away and let them finish their tantrum in “peace”.

Admittedly it would be a pretty boring world if we all were of the same opinions, but I really do feel like if everyone would take the time and listen to one another and find common ground so that harmony could be achieved…our world would be so much better off. But, until that time comes, if you’re going to have a temper tantrum…go away and do it in “peace”!

How about we try and fix it before we screw it up even worse!!!

Alright!  I’ve been wanting to post this for a few days now, but quite frankly, just haven’t had the time, but today is the day!!  A few weeks ago, a story started emerging about some website client list being hacked, the website was ahsleymadison.com.  To be honest, I didn’t pay much attention to what it was, then I start hearing Jimmy Fallon refer to it in some of his monologues, so I ask my husband if he knows what it is that they’re joking about.  To which he replies “I have no idea!”  OK, so I decide to look it up and find out for myself.

I was SO not ready for what I found!!  I was immediately infuriated.  This is their tag line: “Ashley Madison; Have an affair Guaranteed.  Life is Short, Have an Affair”  WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  This is absolutely NOT ok!  It is the farthest away from ok that is traveling away from ok..  My first thought was, “do we really need a website for this?”  There seems to be no shortage of people having affairs, but now they have help!!  My second thought was, “who was the IDIOT that created this website?”, and I am assuming that it was someone who was not happy in their marriage and instead of trying to work out their differences, they cheated and decided it was a great money-maker.  **eye roll**

News flash!!  Marriage is hard people, and to have a good, happy and successful marriage, it takes work…hard work!  In today’s “throw away” society, it is so easy when something gets broken to just throw it away and get a new one.  Somethings, however, can still be fixed.  Marriage is not just a piece of paper, it’s not just about changing your last name, or tradition.  Marriage is a commitment, a bond shared between 2, yes, ONLY 2 people.  If you are truly unhappy in your marriage, there are other ways to deal with it, but cheating is definitely NOT the answer.  All marriages are tough sometimes, but that is what makes them strong and good!

So, to whoever started this website I just want to say SHAME ON YOU!  And to the people who are using this website, the same goes for you, SHAME ON YOU!  I don’t know how you can sleep at night, or look at yourself in the mirror and be happy with what is looking back at you.  I agree though, life is short…don’t waste it having an affair, ruining lives, wrecking homes.  If your marriage is going through a rough spot, take time to stop and think about what made you fall in love in the first place.  Think about the first time you met, or your first kiss, your first date.  Think about how beautiful or handsome your spouse looked on your wedding day, the day your children were born, whatever you need to do to remember how in love you were, and talk about what you can BOTH do to be that in love with each other again.

If there truly is no hope left for your relationship, then let each other go before moving on.  It is not going to be easy, but it is the respectful thing to do and it’s the decent thing to do!

Trust: it takes years to build, seconds to break and forever to repair.